This post was inspired by a good friend of mine who is moving back to Bristol soon after spending many months living alone in Cornwall, one of the most wild and beautiful parts of our country. I recently went to visit her, and she showed me some awesome places, but also told me how she’d been struggling with loneliness.
This is an all too familiar story to me, having recently cut short my travels in Costa Rica to be with friends and family for Christmas. Obviously I’m delighted my friend is coming home, as having loved ones around you is one of the most precious things in the world. But I know that people like us will always crave new experiences and adventures, and sometimes this means having no one to share them with.
This letter is to myself, my friend, and the thousands of other brave souls out there living unconventional lives.
I know you feel like you are alone right now, but you are wrong. I am thinking of you when you feel sad because you think the difficult path you have chosen was a mistake. I am with you when you are admiring a breathtaking view with a feeling of melancholy because there is nobody to share the special moment.
Even when your adventures don’t feel as enjoyable as they should, know that you are still inspiring me. I can see you with the wind in your hair out there living life, when I am wrapped up in my blanket at home planning my next escape.
When you’re worrying about your next move or trip, know that I’m here doing the same. Planning, scheming, getting excited, and thinking ‘what the hell am I doing with my life?!’. There are so many of us, we shouldn’t feel alone.
I’m with you when you are gazing longingly at photos of faraway places, wondering if it is worth leaving the supportive embrace of home to take on a new challenge. There will be struggles whether you stay or go, and know that you are not alone in this.
We are separated by time and space, but we are always together. Next time you are at the top of a mountain, swimming in a river, or walking on a deserted beach with sand between your toes, say a quiet hello to me.
Sometimes we will get to experience adventures together, and these will be all the more amazing. Our brave solo adventures have strengthened our adventurous spirits, and when we are together it is magical.
Thank you for choosing the road less travelled. Soak up every unique detail because I want to hear about it all. The world through your eyes is such a beautiful place, and although I will never be able to fully share your experience, the glimpses I get bring me so much joy.
Next time you are out exploring alone, remember you’re not just doing it for yourself. Your courage helps keep the spirit of adventure alive in all of us. Whether you’re travelling the world, or simply out surfing for the afternoon, your actions have an inspiring ripple effect, spreading an empowering message to so many others.
When you’re lost in the wilderness, or lost in a maze of confusion in your own mind, know that you are never ever alone. We share the same dreams, and every step you take towards yours brings me closer to my own. Let’s create a world where we celebrate our individual paths, enjoying the moments where we intersect, and giving each other the strength to walk sections alone.
All my love,